Resources on Queer Misogyny, Transmisogyny, and Misogyny In General
Compiled by Blyth Barnow from the brilliance found in the Femme Secret Society facebook group
Header image created by the Femme who runs Wicked Queer
This list of articles was generated as a result of countless conversations between Femmes about how to navigate the intense misogyny they encounter in their lives. If you question the reality of queer misogyny, femmephobia, or the burden of care placed on Femmes, let the very fact that this list exists prove otherwise.
This list doesn’t speak for all Femmes. In fact I’m not even sure I agree with everything here. It’s up to you to think critically and sort it all out.
Things I’ve Read / Recommend
- Femme-Ally Conversation Starter by Sunny Drake
- Femme Privilege Does Not Exist by Cyree Jarelle Johnson
- The Femme Shark Manifesto by Leah Lakshmi Piepzna-Samarasinha
- Follow up to “Femme Privilege Does Not Exist” by Cyree Jarelle Johnson
- On Trans Inclusive Feminism: Or, “Can Men Be Feminists?” by Darkmatter
- Butch Please: Butch With A Side Of Misogyny by Kate
- Transmisogyny 101: What It Is and What Can We Do About It by Laura Kacere
- Kim Katrin Milan’s Prezies
- Allyship: Intersectionality & Anti-Oppression by Kim Katrin Milan
- This Girl is on Fire: Queer Misogyny and the Consumable Queer Femme Body by Fran Varian
- Crazy Trans Woman Syndrome by Morgan M. Page
- 11 Common Assumptions About Being a Queer Femme – Debunked by Rhea Ewing and Annah Anti-Palindrome
- Julia Serano’s “Whipping Girl”
- Trans-misogyny primer by Julia Serano
- Against Femme Privilege by Sublimefemme
- What We’re Rolling Around In Bed With by Amber Hollibaugh and Cherrie Moraga
- And so shall our Heels till the Earth by Sunny Drake
- Kim Katrin Milan at Slut Walk
- In Fierceness & Vulnerability: Deconstructing and Resisting Femmephobia by Kim Katrin Milan
- for women who are difficult to love – (the affirmation) by Warsan Shire
- 10 Types of Misogynist Men We All Need to Know About – And Then Call Out! by Annah Anti-Palindrome
- 4 Ways to Support Queer Femmes – Instead of Erasing Us from Queer Communities by Anna Bongiovanni
- 1-2-3 Punch: How Misogyny Hurts Queer Communities by Annah Anti-Palindrome
- Gender Labor: Transmen, Femmes, and Collective Work of Transgression by Jane Ward
- How Misogyny Shows Up in the Queer Community by Anna Bongiovanni
Other Things That Might Be Beneficial
- 6 Ways Femmephobia Is Harming LGBTQIA+ Communities by Brynn Tannehill
- Gender Fluidity Has a Toxic Masculinity Problem by Nico Lang
- Emotional Labor: The MetaFilter Thread Condensed
- Chai Chats Podcast: Boundaries, Emotional Labour and Reciprocity in Relationships
- Transitioning Into A Decolonized Masculinity by Shay Akil
- Femme Bloc
- A Beginner’s Guide To Trans-Misogyny by Natalie Reed
- Against Patriarchy: Tools for Men to Further Feminist Revolution by Chris Crass
- How To Confront Femme Competition Within Polyamorous Relationships by Andre Shakti
- Beyond the Binary: Yes, Nonbinary Femmes Exist by s.e. smith
- Gay Male Sexism and How It Happens
- Femme is Radical: Resisting Transmisogyny and Femme-shaming in Feminist Spaces by Safíra Anouk
- Comic Of The Day: Male Feminist “Allies” by Victor Entrepuertas and Anonima P.
- What’s Mansplaining? Here’s How (And Why) You Need to Stop Privileged Explaining by Adam Levine-Peres
- Problems with Names
- 35 Practical Tools for Men to Further Feminist Revolution by Pamela Clark
- Dating Tips for the Feminist Man: We Need Allies, Not Gentlemen by Nora Samaran
- dating tips for the feminist man by Nora Samaran
- Tired of Talking To Men by The Belle Jar
- Your Princess Is in Another Castle: Misogyny, Entitlement, and Nerds by Arthur Chu
- The Performance of Masculinity: What’s Missing in our Sex Ed and How to Fix It
- Of Dogs and Lizards: A Parable of Privilege by Sindelókë
- Straight White Male: The Lowest Difficulty Setting There Is by John Scalzi
- Pyramid Of Hate
- To Men I Love, About Men Who Scare Me by Laura Munoz
- 8 Ways For Men Be Allies to Women at Parties Without Being Paternalistic by Jamie Utt
Femme Authors and Artists To Read
* Pulled from Fran Varian’s blog post*
This Girl is on Fire: Queer Misogyny and the Consumable Queer Femme Body
“Read or study the work of any or all of these critical and necessary femmes”
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Here are a few names I’ll add:
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“These names are but a trickle in the bucket. This is an infinitely expandable list.”
Femminary 
I’d love to add my lovely friend, Stephanie Skora is an Anti-Zionist Genderqueer Trans Lesbian. She is directly involved in the Trans Liberation Collective in Chicago.
https://www.stephanieskora.com/
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Wonderful! Thanks for the introduction. Just added her! ❤
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